Posts in Emotional Intelligence
Bringing Back the Glad Game

It’s almost Thanksgiving, a time to feel and speak about the ways we’re thankful. What comes to my mind is Hayley Mills in the 1960 movie Pollyanna. She’s an orphan who is shipped off to live with a wealthy and stern aunt in a small country town. Not to be dismayed, she shares with all those around her the “glad game” her father taught her before he died. The Glad Game works like this: find something positive in every difficult situation.

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Facing Pain, Gaining Strength

If you have ever lost a loved one, suffered through a serious accident or illness, had a miscarriage, a divorce, financial troubles, an addiction, a painful relationship, stress in your job, or just lost your way . . . the list is endless . . . you know it can seem like life will never be good again. How do you get through such debilitating losses? If you’re going through something hard right now, I am so sorry and I want you to know I am writing this for you. I hope that my story and ideas will be of some comfort and benefit to you.

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What Leaders Really Need

“This is the best training session we’ve had all year!”

A group of leaders I train regularly asked that we raise the level of our “check-in” time. We did and there was much personal and professional vulnerability around the table. No rush, plenty of time, a half-day away from the office, phones off, even watches taken off the wrist and set aside, with space to breathe and no pressure to be “in charge”—to meet deadlines or solve problems.

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Reality Test with EQ 360 Feedback

Work smarter not harder! We’ve all heard that expression, but what does that really mean and how do you actually do that? One way to think about working smarter is to leverage your strengths and intentionally minimize what you don’t do best. Since most of us have biases and blind spots about our own strengths and how our personality and habits impact others, we need input—a reality check! Input from others also helps to build our Self-Awareness, a cornerstone of Emotional Intelligence—the set of skills that influence our ability to cope with life’s various demands and pressures.

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